So, you have been on the dating website for a month now with hardly any prospects and then you meet the love of your life! You feel amazing, you share goals, religion, political leanings and all is perfect….so you think. A dear friend of mine just related this scenario over lunch today.
Joe is a survivor of a bitter divorce five years ago, he has been recovering through counseling, his deep faith in God and the love of his children. I have been encouraging him to move on and not to dwell on his loneliness. He recently went on a line dating site and met Kat. Kat turned out to be everything he asked for. She shared common views, loved his four children ranging from 15 to 25 and most importantly Joe thought he had found his true soul mate.
As he was relating this story to me, I felt a true sense of dread. And then other shoe dropped….Kat just recently told him that she still loves her prior boyfriend, Mike, and is choosing Mike over Joe. Joe is devastated of course, he has asked her to reconsider and is presently waiting her decision.
My heart goes out to Joe, I am trying to console him to no avail. I told him to look at this in a positive light. Joe thought during the never- ending divorce process that he would always be alone and would never love again. I suggested that he think of Kat as a blessing, until his ultimate prize comes along.
Rejection is the natural result of dating until you find your “true companion”. Rejection goes with the territory. I have had to make that dreaded phone call, I have received it as well. The only way to avoid rejection is just to stop trying to find your partner. I choose to not give up!